Update on Daddy


 
We knew this was coming.  It just seemed a long way off, or perhaps even impossible.  You just don’t think about your parents becoming frail – especially your Daddy, I think. 
 
Most of you know that Dad has been back in the hospital with bronchitis and congestive heart failure complications. Dr. S said he wants to make sure Daddy is stable – his breathing is still somewhat difficult, but he should go home tomorrow (Saturday).  He was supposed to go home today, but he’s not ready.   Daddy still has more “rattle” in his chest than Dr. S wants, so more sitting in the chair and walking today.  Dr. S wants Dad to sit in the chair for 2 hours at a time, twice today and walk with the therapist.
 
We have been advised that it is time to call in Hospice care, because the congestive heart failure (CHF) issues are intensifying faster than they can be treated.  Symptoms come, but never go away completely before the next round begins, so each time he is much worse. He is growing  weaker because he has no appetite, he is rapidly losing weight, and he is showing signs of failure to thrive.  There is no way to speculate how quickly the disease will progress.  He may maintain this status for awhile before we see more decline. 
 
One thing we have tried to make sure everyone knows is that this doesn’t necessarily mean “the end is here”.  Dad has had appetite ups and downs since the first of the year, and this may well continue.  His digression may well be slow – we just don’t know. 
 
I think we all have a bit of a cloud hanging over our heads, though.  As I said before, we knew in a general sort of way that this would come, but truly, there was always this thought in the back of our heads that our greater than life Daddy would escape it. 
 
To complicate matters a bit, I am also sick.  I’m guessing it’s just allergies gone bad, but I am feeling rotten.  Jeanne is at the hospital with Daddy – she stayed last night and today, and may have to stay tonight.  We thought Daddy was coming home today, but since he’s not, she may have to stay again.  I don’t think I need to be too close to Daddy right now, although I’m not sure I have anything contagious.  I’d just hate to make things worse.
 
I’m going back to bed now.  I’d appreciate your prayers for my family, and for Daddy.  I am specifically praying that Daddy will be comfortable, and will not experience fear.  Please pray with us!
 
God bless your day!
 

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About pettybunch

I am loved with God's everlasting love, and underneath are His everlasting arms - and I haven't gotten over it yet! I am also blessed to be married for over 36 years to the man of my dreams, and have 3 incredible adult children, an amazing son-in-law, a wonderful daughter-in-law, and SEVEN grandchildren: four precious granddaughters, three handsome grandsons - so far. I am a retired Home Educator, and loved every moment of it! We are empty nesters, and are endeavoring to embrace this new phase of life. God is so good!
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8 Responses to Update on Daddy

  1. AuntGen says:

    He’s doing really well right now. We worked an entire crossword puzzle while he sat up in the chair, and it took almost the whole 2 hours! It’s probably annoying and humorous to hear us working at it with me yelling and re-yelling clues, blanks and letters at him. He still comes up with some of those obscure puzzle culture answers that we novices would never think of, but he sometimes has a hard time even thinking of the simple ones.  The tech is going to come sometime today and help him shower, and he will sit up to eat lunch, but I probably won’t ask him to sit up for his second 2 hour session until supper time. Haven’t heard from therapy, but assume he’ll walk again today, as that’s a prerequesite to going home. I gather that you’re resting, and am glad to hear it. I’ll talk with you when you’re up and about.

  2. Praying for your dad, and for both of you as you care for him.  Do get some rest.  This was the point, with both of my parents when we didn’t know whether to pray for longer life, which for each of them meant prolonging death and the suffering in this body, or to pray for the Lord to take them quickly and with no further discomforts.  Fortunately, our God is a sovereign God who determines the lengths of our days and will take your father home to Himself when it is the right time.  So, I am praying for your father, as I did for my parents, that the Lord’s will be done and that he would remain pain-free and comfortable.

  3. My heart is just aching, Mama. Knowing that this was coming sure doesn’t make it any easier, and makes it just awful to be so far away. Nathanael’s been full of Granddad stories and is wanting to be there so badly that he’s really not all the way “here”! Pray with us that we’ll find a way to come down for a visit, and soon—Nate’s going to start walking if we don’t hurry! 🙂 Praying that you’ll feel better very, very soon (maybe this is the Lord’s way of guaranteeing some rest for you?) and that you’ll all get to be home as soon as possible. I vote tomorrow! 🙂 love you.

  4. grace_to_be says:

    thinking of you lots these days, friend~ lifting you up in prayer even now. much love.

  5. ABAHM says:

    Praying for you dear heart, your family, and your daddy.  We prayed a lot for grace from the Lord, and I will pray that for you.  Lots of love.

  6. I will be praying for your family.

  7. You mentioned hospice, and I would really like to encourage you to consider it.  Our Deborah is a hospice nurse, and they don’t come in only when the end is eminent, they come when a family needs help as they deal with the issues that are leading to the end.  People are in hospice for six months sometimes, and sometimes they get better enough that they surprise people and don’t “need” it any more.  (Not a usual thing, but it does happen!)  Deborah is an on-call nurse, and she will head out at any time of the night to “be there” if someone needs her.  And that IS what is the major need — someone to “be there” for the family and the person who is facing.  It would be nice if we could always handle everything for ourselves — just us and our family, but when compassionate, caring help is available, and that help is free, then I think God intends for us to use it.  My heart goes out to you and your family in this time.  It doesn’t matter how long we have had a parent, there is never an easy time to say “Good-by”.  I used to add, “especially when he’s been such a good Daddy!” but I’ve come to realize that, in some terrible way, it’s even worse when the memories are bad.  It just has a different “flavor” to it.  So hold those wonderful memories, dear friend, and remember what PiecedTreasures said that is so true — “our God is a sovereign God who determines the lengths of our days and will take your father home to Himself when it is the right time.”  We can trust Him for that.

  8. redladybug18 says:

    Hope you get to feeling better!

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